The heart of the matter
Think about a specific time in your life when you had a really bad attitude. Did the situation get better because of it? Everything we say is directly connected to our attitude. “…For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.” Matthew 12:34
Jesus taught over and over again that our hearts are the center of the battles we face in life. Whether it is hate, lust or anything else, the condition of our hearts or our attitudes will often determine the outcome of any situation we are involved in. “For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies.” Matthew 15:19
Speak and act as Christ commands
It has become somewhat of a societal belief that we shouldn’t talk about politics. When was the last time anything got better from not talking about it? Stop letting society dictate what you talk about. Avoiding conversations about politics doesn’t eliminate confrontation. People fight about religion, sports, movies and just about anything else. Jesus didn’t dismiss political discussion or avoid confrontation. He perfected confrontation by speaking the truth in love.
Whatever the conversation, let your speech and actions glorify God. Here are three things you can do to handle confrontation in a Christ-like manner.
- Be an active listener and do your best to understand the heart of the matter
- Be patient with your speech and wait for the Lord to speak to you before you speak
- Control your anger and don’t let your emotions get the best of you
“So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath;” James 1:19
Attitude counts in every discussion
There is no better way to ruin your political exchange and your spiritual witness then by cursing, yelling, slandering, or lying. “Out of the same mouth proceed blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be so.” James 3:10
The better your attitude, the more you will find that people will be willing to listen to you. Control your emotions and allow the Holy Spirit to work in you and speak through you. “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.” Galatians 5:22
Your body language, facial expressions and speech can have a positive or negative impact on another persons life depending on your attitude. You never know what Christ will do in someone’s life when you speak the truth in love to them. Your conversations with others can have eternal consequences, so your attitude matters.
God gave me the one for me
My wife and I got married eleven years ago, today. I thank the Lord for my wife every day. And I have every reason to do so. She is a beautiful, loving and caring woman. She loves me unconditionally. She is a wonderful mother to our children. She takes care of our family in ways that I can’t. She is the one for me for as long as we both live.
Early on in our relationship, before we were engaged, I knew that she was the one for me. I remember praying to God about her and later receiving a prompting from the Holy Spirit that confirmed she was who He wanted me to be with. Those who say that God doesn’t know everything, probably never experienced something like that.
God is involved in our marriage
God knows that I need my wife and gave her to me so that we would be good for each other. “And the Lord God said, It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” Genesis 2:18
God made my wife and I one flesh, in that we are to live our lives in unity under God’s authority. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” Genesis 2:24
God calls me to love my wife and calls my wife to respect me. “Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.” Ephesians 5:33
God made this virtuous woman
The word virtuous is defined as “conforming to moral and ethical principles; morally excellent; upright“. My wife is virtuous! She has been the virtuous woman that God made her for as long as I have known her. And I have seen God work in her life in some amazing ways over the past eleven years. The Lord molded my wife into who she is today. She is a virtuous woman who cares for me as God leads her.
“Who can find a virtuous wife?
For her worth is far above rubies.
The heart of her husband safely trusts her;
So he will have no lack of gain.
She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life.” Proverbs 31:10-12
Happy Anniversary to the woman of my dreams and the love of my life!!!